"Hers was tougher than tough love. It was brutal, industrial-strength. A Sinewy love that never gave way to an inch of weakness. It was a love that saw what was the best for you ten steps ahead, and didn't care if it hurt like hell in the meantime."
What a profound tribute to the complicated, painful reality of mother daughter relationships, and the double edge of selfless love, comfort and validation we gain from them. It ain’t all rainbows and sunshine, but it’s raw and beautiful. Zauner exposes us to the jealous, selfish, ugly side of grief that we don’t often acknowledge, and this makes the memoir all the more relatable. One of our favorite elements was Zauner and her mother’s shared love of Korean food, and how this love grounds their relationship and becomes a love language of sorts. If you’re an emotional eater, be warned!
🌟🌟🌟🌟 4 Stars.
Pro tip: Pairs well with Psychopomp and Soft Sounds from Another Planet 🎶